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I'm Tired of Being the Enemy.

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Seriously, what is it going to take to not be hated anymore?

So are the men the real terrorists?  Bush says we're fighting them "there" so they don't come here - but maybe they already have.

No public outrage, no sensitivity.  No one cares.  Why don't we have some color-coded warning system for women telling us how to read men.  Are they more likely to kill right after sex?  Or after dinner?  On a week-end?  Should we all hide on Sunday nights?  Is that the red alert time?

Before I begin, I'd like to say a few things about myself.

I'm not a big diary writer. I prefer to listen, to peruse, to contribute comments wherever I deem appropriate.

I'm not perfect by any means. I can be moody, self absorbed, and combative at times. I am far from being the most passionate voice, nor the most reasoned one.

But at the same time, I'm not willing to just sit back and listen to any more crud about how my gender automatically makes me a murderous, lying, scumbag. I hear it all the time, even from my more "enlightened" female friends:

"Men are bad. Men are scum. Men are liars. Men can't be trusted."

If someone in DailyKos, or in any setting, really, had repeated the above lines but substituted another entity for "men" such as "Jews" or "blacks" or "Mexicans", or "lesbians"....

You guess it. They'd be branded as racist, sexist, homophobic, etc.

I've had a long career of being pro-feminist. Whether it was sticking up for a gal who was being unjustly accused of stealing by an all male group in college, or sheltering a closeted friend after her husband kicked her out when he found out the truth, or contributing to various causes over the years... I've always put my money where my mouth is. And I will stay that way...even after being treated very badly in a failed marriage and in past relationships.

Now, I don't want to be praised for my so called good deeds. Frankly I really don't want to talk about them, because I believe it's not what you did yesterday, but what you do today, that counts.

What I ask, however, is for you to stop being treating me as the enemy because of something I have no control over. It's one thing when I'm criticized for what I do. It's another thing to be criticized for something I can't control. I didn't ask to be born a male, I didn't ask to be born with olive skin, I didn't ask to be born where I was, or to my particular family. I didn't ask to be sexually attracted to women.

I am not your enemy. I'm tired of being the enemy.

And most importantly, I ask that you listen. Not just to me, not just to men, but to everyone around you. Some of us aren't as bad as you might think.

Stop the hate already...we deal with enough of it as it is.

sigh

end rant.


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